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25 October 2009 @ 04:46 pm

pumpkin picking
Originally uploaded by spatts5

This picture was taken back in Oct. 1991 (you do the math). It was a cool, crisp fall day, just like today. We had just gotten back from pumpkin picking and eating at Friendly's Ice Cream shop. BTW, the guy in the middle was my first.

 
 
Paul
21 October 2009 @ 08:13 am

A new look
Originally uploaded by spatts5

Since I'm not very hairy, I thought I'd do my own meme...flash your fuzzy face Wednesday.

 
 
Paul
19 October 2009 @ 08:23 am

The "before" picture
Originally uploaded by spatts5

This past weekend was my Jake's 6th birthday. Ever since he was a puppy, he'd chew up stuffed toys (and a chair or ottoman) and just pull out all the stuffing. That's why all his current toys are rawhide chips/bones and he only gets the stuffed toys on his birthday. I tried taking this before picture without him seeing the toys, but it's hard to sneak a toy by him and he was ready to pounce! It was fun to watch him pull out the stuffing and "spit" it to the side and go in for more. Click on the picture to see some action shots and the "after" effects.

 
 
Paul
14 October 2009 @ 01:47 pm
It's been a little over a year since I ended my relationship with T. Although we were only together for 3 years, it was a committed relationship none the less. I'll admit this past year has been tough, lots of time to think and reflect, some good, some bad. I'm a little embarrassed to say I think I jumped a little too quickly into the relationship (had that U-Haul truck packed ready to go in 3 months). Circumstances at the time made me think it was "fate" and what I was doing was right. I literally uprooted my entire life to move to Charlotte. I'm not so sure I believe in fate anymore. Would I do it again? Maybe, but very differently. I've learned my lesson, but is it too late? I feel this is a mistake I should have made in my 20's or 30's, but then again I've always been a "late bloomer" (I didn't come out until I was 33).

I lived in Atlanta for 13 years before moving to Charlotte and loved every minute of it. I have some wonderful friends in Atlanta and miss them terrribly (yeah, I know the two cities are only a couple hours apart, but it's not the same as being in the same city). I've never been the outgoing, social butterfly so making friends is not easy for me. All the friends I had here were T's friends and they all accepted me with open arms. After the breakup, a few said they wanted to remain friends, but I didn't want to put them in the middle. It's easy to make online friends, but developing a true, in person friendship does not come easy to me. I'm the type of person that can be alone and not be lonely, but lately that's not always been the case. I desperately want to move back to Atlanta, but can't until I can find a job there (and we all know how abundant jobs are now a days). I've never felt like Charlotte was my "home". I know moving back to Atlanta won't solve all my problems, but it will relieve a lot of them.

Financially, I'm just squeaking by. Working for city government is not the way to become independently weathly. I've stayed with my job because I've been hopeful in finding a better paying job in Atlanta. Well after almost a year of hoping, I'm starting to think that maybe I should look for a better job in Charlotte. It's not what I want to do, but you gotta do what you gotta do to get by. For now I'm still sticking to the Atlanta plan, but who knows what next week will bring. Maybe it's fate!

As far as my relationship with T, it's civil at best. I know I hurt him badly, and I know he is/was convinced I ended the relationship because I wanted to date (read have sex with) other people. Although that was not the case, I admit I've avoided seeing/talking to him because I know I blindsided him with my leaving and still feel guilty for putting him through all that. He hasn't made much of an effort to contact me either which I'm OK with. Our only connection is the house we bought together. He is living it in and it's up for sale (and we all know how well the real estate market is today). I try to help out with the lawn maintenance, but feel so uncomfortable when I go over there.

This is probably the longest and most honest post I've ever made. I feel (somewhat) comfortable with this because so many of you share your thoughts, feelings, hopes and dreams here, that it's only fair I do the same. It's not easy for me, but isn't that what friends do with each other?
 
 
Paul
07 October 2009 @ 08:14 am
Well not exactly prison, but I was on lockdown yesterday. It seems someone left a "suspicious" package on the corner a block from my office building and at around 4:00 pm the police locked down all the buildings in the area. After the bomb squad was called, it turned out to be a piece of plastic pipe with some duct tape that a utility worker left behind. Atleast it added a bit of excitement to an otherwise boring work day.
 
 
Paul
07 September 2009 @ 07:11 pm

Hiking trail at Chimney Rock, NC
Originally uploaded by spatts5

Saturday I took advantage of the beautiful weather and drove to the mountains to Chimney Rock, NC (about 20 miles SE of Asheville, NC). The park has several hiking trails as well as the Chimney Rock which is 2280 ft above sea level. You can either take an elevator to the top or hike it (climbing several thousands stairs). I hiked it, ugh. The view from the top was beautiful. After a quick elevator ride down, I hiked one of the trails that ended by the base of a waterfalls. It is supposed to be the location where part of the movie, "The Last of the Mohicans" was filmed. There was a slight cool breeze that helped keep you comfortable while hiking so it was a very enjoyable day.

 
 
Paul
31 August 2009 @ 10:19 am
In the beginning of June, my nephew and his wife had a christening for their new daughter. It was in NY so I didn't attend, but I sent a check as a gift. Well one month passed and then two months and the check still hadn't cleared my bank. I don't have my nephew's phone number, so I called my sister-in-law (his mother) because my nephew lives in their basement apartment. I explained to my sister-in-law I had sent a check but it was still outstanding and asked her to find out if my nephew ever received it. If not, I was more than happy to send another check. Well a week later I received a thank-you note for my "gift" (a pre-printed thank you with their names printed on it - two months after the christening) so I figured the check would clear soon. Well another month later and it's still outstanding. Granted, the amount of the check won't pay for my grand niece's college education, but it was sent with love and good intentions. Should I send a replacement check or just add the amount back to my checking balance and call it a day?
 
 
Current Mood: annoyed
 
 
Paul
14 August 2009 @ 03:06 pm

Myrtle Beach 8/2009
Originally uploaded by spatts5

I've been on vacation this week and got to spend the first few days in Myrtle Beach visiting my parents. My nephew, his wife and their son (who all live in NY) were also there so I got to spend some time with them too. This is a picture of my great nephew David. He's 22 months and a ball of energy. It was only the second or third time I got to see him so it was fun playing on the beach with him. We dug in the sand, boogie boarded and swan in the ocean. Almost made me wish my biological clock was set a few hours earlier, notice I said "almost". It was good seeing everyone. I think my Mom was more upset seeing Jake leave than me. She loves her granddog.

 
 
Paul
16 July 2009 @ 11:56 am
You answer an online ad and hope you get a call.
When they do call, you talk on the phone to see if there is a mutual interest.
If there is an interest, you set a time to meet face to face.
When you meet, they say they are very interested in you and will call you to set up another time to see you again.
You wait for their phone call. When they don't call, you call them and they say they've decided to go with someone else who is a better fit for them.

Job interviewing is just like dating ... both suck! "Bitter, party of one, your table is waiting."
 
 
Current Mood: pissed off
 
 
Paul
14 July 2009 @ 02:01 pm
...sensual, passionate lovemaking is definitely on the agenda of activities for the night. Hmmmm, maybe I need to leave work now and prepare.
 
 
Paul
02 July 2009 @ 03:21 pm
or "I'm not a real doctor but I play one at home"

Well it's been two weeks since I fractured my toe. It was feeling better, but still sore to the touch. I figured that was normal. Yesterday afternoon I mowed the lawn at the house and then decided to go up on the roof to remove the dead tree limbs and branches that had fallen there. Anyone who has been on a slanted roof knows you need your feet and toes to balance yourself. I was doing pretty good with just some slight pain in my injured foot. Well I moved one way and felt a sharp pain. Just chalking it up to having moved the wrong way, I continued my cleanup. After getting down off the roof and walking around, I noticed my foot felt a lot better than before. After showering, I iced the foot/toe for a little while and it felt really good afterwards. Then it hit me, maybe I just dislocated the toe and moving around on the roof, pushed it back into place. My foot/toe felt so much better this morning that I'm beginning to think I was walking around with a dislocated toe for two weeks. It's still a little sore, but I can walk now with only a slight limp.

I may have saved some money by not going to the doctor, but it would have been worth it not to be in needless pain. I'll know better next time.
 
 
Paul
29 June 2009 @ 08:06 am
About a week and a half ago I fractured a toe on my right foot. I now only have a slight limp when I walk (although the toe itself is still very sore). Last night I decided to go to the park for the free concert by the Charlotte Symphony. It was still a little hot and muggy, but the music was wonderful. The conductor was very enthusiastic and gave a short background/story on each piece. It was a nice way to end a Sunday evening. While walking back to the parking lot, I stepped off the curb with my left foot and ... down I went. I twisted my ankle and although several people were concerned, I got up and limped away with what was left of my dignity. I thought I had "walked if off" because the rest of the night I was fine. This morning is another story. When I got out of bed this morning, I almost fell again. The ankle was very sore. So now I have a fractured right toe and a sprained left ankle. "Just put me in a walker, get a g-ddamn walker and put me in it!" (kudos to anyone who knows what Sally Field, Kevin Klein, Whoopi Goldberg movie this line is from).

Happy Monday y'all.
 
 
Paul
I understand that Facebook is a good way to find people from your past and in fact I've actually "resparked" some friendships, but why would someone who didn't say two words to me in high school request to be my friend? I mean it's been over 30 years since I've even seen some of these people let alone wondered (or cared) what they were up to. Is it rude of me to "friend" a stranger's request (if we have friends in common) rather than to friend an old high school mate? I may be more willing to friend that person if they at least sent a short note saying hello or asking how I've been. I guess at this rate I'll never get to 10,000 people on my friends list.
 
 
Paul
23 June 2009 @ 09:43 am
Why is it every time I talk to my IT dept. and ask for something to be fixed or a slight modification, I get an hour's disseration on what they have to do to fulfill my request? I'll admit most of what they tell me goes right over my head, but you know what ... I don't care about the labor, just deliver the baby!
 
 
Paul
08 June 2009 @ 07:37 pm
Attention all you handsome, sexy, intelligent computer savvy people (is that enough brown nosing or do you need more), I need help. I can't open any of my emails. I have MSN and Yahoo accounts and I can get to the listing of my emails, but when I try to open up an email in my MSN account nothing happens. When I try to open an email in my Yahoo account I get an erro message with a LONG string of programming that means absolutely nothing to me. I can't delete any emails, but I can send emails. I've cleaned out my temporary internet files, rebooted the computer and the internet server, but still can't get my emails. I'm pretty sure it's my home computer because I can open and read my emails on my work computer. Any suggestions?

What's even worse is that I can't get to Bear411!!!!!! I can get to any website but this one. Any ideas why?

I will be eternally indebted to you. ;)
 
 
Paul
05 June 2009 @ 04:11 pm
Just for [info]mikiedoggie  
Happy?
 
 
Paul
02 June 2009 @ 01:15 pm

The Boys
Originally uploaded by spatts5

I'm back from my 4 day trip to NJ/NY to attend the civil union of two good friends. The weekend was great as was the weather (low humidity and in the 70's). The ceremony was very nice (although the minister kept using the words marriage/matrimony by mistake). It was about 15-20 minutes long and then a 4 hour party ensued. This picture is of the Atlanta contingency (all of us who used to live or still live in Atl). It was really nice seeing some old friends and catching up on things. Click on the picture to see some others from the weekend.

The next day I took the train into NYC and walked for about 4 hours. I started at 32nd and 5th Ave. and walked uptown just enjoying the weather and people around me. When I got up to Central Park, I continued my stroll thru the park to about 90th street, then crossed over to the west side of the park and walked back downtown, stopping to enjoy a delicious hot dog and pretzel from one of the many street vendors and listening to some jazz from a street performer playing the saxaphone. Made my way down Broadway, thru Time Square and back to Penn Station (32nd St.). Although my feet hurt, I found it a very relaxing day.

My flight home was uneventful (except for the fact I kept thinking about that Air France flight that disappeared over the Atlantic Ocean). I went directly to pick up Jake from the spa (actually the kennel, but he did have a bath, got his nails trimmed,ears cleaned and glands expressed). The technicians are usually pretty quick in bringing Jake out, but for some reason I had to wait over 10 minutes and when a tech did bring out "Jake", it wasn't my Jake (cute dog but I wanted my baby). A few minutes later another technician came out and told me there was a little problem. Jake is a happy dog and wags his tail a lot so apparently he wagged his tail so much against the cage, it started to bleed and they had to bandage the tip of his tail. Not sure I believe that story, but he seemed OK when they brought him out (except for the open bandage on his tail). Of course he was excited to see me and started wagging his tail and the more he wagged the more it bled (not fast but enough to get blood all over my pants). The tech's instructions were to keep him from wagging his tail, yeah, right! Luckily when we got home, he immediately laid down and an hour later I removed the bandage. He's fine and hasn't bled since.

Back at work today and It took the morning to catch up on work mail and emails and only had 2 fires to put out. Feels like I was never gone!

 
 
Paul
This Friday morning I'm headed up to beautiful Morristown, NJ to attend the wedding civil union of two very good friends, Trent and Ken. Actually Trent is an ex from a long, long time ago, but still one of the few people I call "best friend". There'll will be people there that I haven't seen in years so it'll also be a reunion of sorts. Looking forward to getting out of town for a long weekend. I plan on trekking into NYC on Sunday to soak up some culture or just bask in the aroma that is NYC. If anyone in the area would like to meet up and a grab a meal, a drink (or me), just let me know. I have no set plans for the day.
 
 
Paul
NSFW so click the link:

http://www.flickr.com/photos/28964628@N00/3549770309/
 
 
Current Mood: silly
 
 
Paul
18 May 2009 @ 08:10 pm

Me
Originally uploaded by spatts5

This is a week's worth of beard. I don't have a very thick beard so it has to grow more and fill in the empty spots.